I'm guessing there is someone here that agrees with her

[Brandon]

[Redondo]

Lol

Gold digger 

[Blarg]

I think she doesn't understand the contract is between her and her ex, not his new wife. Even in California with assets considered joint in a marriage, the ex's new spouse income is not considered an asset that can be used for increasing child support. 

[Blarg]

12 minutes ago, Redondo said:

Lol

Gold digger 

Doesn't help that she takes a selfie at a bar looking like she's on a date or just finished shopping. 

[Taylor]

I don't agree with her, so I'm not sure who would. Rico? bakunin V1?

[gotbeer]

I hope she takes them to court, and the judge agrees that she should get $500 a month.

[tdawg87]

The judge would probably give it to her tbh. "Child support" is the dumbest shit.

[Taylor]

25 minutes ago, cals said:

Dude you.  We all thought YOU would agree with her.

Exactly.

[Taylor]

4 minutes ago, tdawg87 said:

The judge would probably give it to her tbh. "Child support" is the dumbest shit.

Is it, though? Explain.

[tdawg87]

1 minute ago, Taylor said:

Is it, though? Explain.

How much do you think actually goes towards supporting the child?

It's income. 

[Taylor]

15 minutes ago, cals said:

I really hope it doesn’t happen.  But someday you may be jaded and angry and will be texting me drunk about how right I was.

tdawg is cals' alt confirmed.

[Blarg]

1 hour ago, cals said:

You do know what isn’t real, right?  

WYHI?

[tdawg87]

35 minutes ago, Taylor said:

tdawg is cals' alt confirmed.

[Tank]

1 hour ago, tdawg87 said:

How much do you think actually goes towards supporting the child?

It's income. 

That’s an incredibly cynical thing to say. I’ve taught an awful lot of kids from divorced homes that benefitted a lot from child support money. 
 

Maybe your experience is different, and that would be unfortunate, but this system has helped a lot of kids that needed it.

[tdawg87]

I'm sure it has benefited plenty of kids. But there are so many horror stories out there that it kind of balances out a bit.

It might be cynical, but it's not pulled out of thin air. 2 brothers and several friends can attest to that.

[Tank]

So in other words, there’s a balanced view option available where sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn’t.

[tdawg87]

10 minutes ago, Tank said:

So in other words, there’s a balanced view option available where sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn’t.

Nah I'm going full cals on this one.

[Taylor]

26 minutes ago, tdawg87 said:

I'm sure it has benefited plenty of kids. But there are so many horror stories out there that it kind of balances out a bit.

It might be cynical, but it's not pulled out of thin air. 2 brothers and several friends can attest to that.

I know of a current example (close family) where child support is necessary and justified. 

[Taylor]

9 minutes ago, tdawg87 said:

Nah I'm going full cals on this one.

Well that's just dumb.

[tdawg87]

Maybe I should rephrase.

"Child support" is fine, but it's massively abused and the system is extremely biased towards the mother.

[Brandon]

I have no problem with child support. Never got it as my father was a piece of shit, but they did hit him with a wage garnishment when I was older and my mom just gave us the small amount. ~$800 total for 18 years.

Now alimony on the other hand........

[Tank]

8 hours ago, tdawg87 said:

Maybe I should rephrase.

"Child support" is fine, but it's massively abused and the system is extremely biased towards the mother.

biased towards the mom? how so? i mean if she has the kids it's kind of necessary.

[Tank]

1 hour ago, Brandon said:

I have no problem with child support. Never got it as my father was a piece of shit, but they did hit him with a wage garnishment when I was older and my mom just gave us the small amount. ~$800 total for 18 years.

same here. my dad didn't pay very often, mostly because he was so often unemployed. my mom had a good-paying job that was able to keep us okay, but she paid a big price by going over 7 years without a day off - not vacation time, just a regular day off. when my brother and i got to high school, we had to work summers as well as during the school year. we managed.

we didn't always have what we wanted, but we always had what we needed.

[Adam]

1 hour ago, Tank said:

same here. my dad didn't pay very often, mostly because he was so often unemployed. my mom had a good-paying job that was able to keep us okay, but she paid a big price by going over 7 years without a day off - not vacation time, just a regular day off. when my brother and i got to high school, we had to work summers as well as during the school year. we managed.

we didn't always have what we wanted, but we always had what we needed.

Your ted talk needs more twists and turns

[Taylor]

11 hours ago, tdawg87 said:

Maybe I should rephrase.

"Child support" is fine, but it's massively abused and the system is extremely biased towards the mother.

Do you have any evidence of this, or is it purely anecdotal? Dads who have been screwed over by the system are the most likely to speak up, so I wonder if they're the vocal minority.

I'm not saying I have evidence that it ISN'T like that. I just know that there needs to be a system in place in which abusive and/or adulterous spouses are legally obligated to support their children, even if those children live with the other parent most of the time.