My brother (splint) and I lost our older brother , Paul, about 8 years ago. Paul was 10 years older than I was, so we weren't as close as I wish we were. But I can tell you it took weeks for me to feel normal again. I just felt like something was missing. Doug (splint) who was only a couple years younger than Paul was pretty close to him, and I know it took him much longer to be over it. I would NEVER question the amount of time it takes someone to grieve and get over it. Sometimes real life needs to take priority over the game of baseball.